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We Must Endeavor to Persevere by Tom Chapman

"We Must Endeavor to Persevere" - Winston Churchill

I got divorced seven years ago. I never expected I would get divorced one day. I would never in my wildest dreams imagine I would get divorced one time in my life much less two times and 30 years of marriage! I would never marry someone if I did not love them or thought we would get divorced one day. But it happens, who of us can predict our path in life? Or who can predict when love or adversity will come into our life? Certainly not me!

I can say that I have not dated very much at all these last seven years. I think the first year or two I just wanted peace in my life and I was content to be alone and to focus on my work. Also, I did not want to be with just anyone. I am not the type who wants to act like I am really interested in a woman just to get in bed with her. That is not me! I am the type who believes that if I cannot be with someone special in my eyes, someone that I want to really be with, someone who excites me, someone I can love, why bother? You see, I don't want to be with just anyone. I want to be with someone special! I want to fall in love! I want to love and cherish that person and I am not the type that believes in settling for less than what I really want in life. So my love life, or the lack of a love life would be more accurate, is a reflection of how I live my life and that I want to be the best that I can be in every way!

Sure, I get tired of hugging my pillow every night! I get very tired of being alone all the time! But I remember something that I read once. It said that people who postpone gratification for what they really want are the happiest people! For example, doctors and lawyers postpone gratification and endure the many hard years of law school or medical school. But because they are some of the most educated people they also have some of the highest incomes and very often have a much higher standard of living versus the people who do not postpose gratification and settle for less even though they wanted to be a doctor or a lawyer.

Our love life is even more important than our education! Why? Because think about it, this decision of who you marry, who you may have children with, affects not only you but many other people in both families. I think it is one of the most important decisions in our lives and consider how that changes our lives in a multitude of ways over many years. It can add much happiness or it can also add a lot of adversity to your life! And not only your life, but it affects your children and family who you love on both sides.

I think we all want the best for those we love, including ourselves. So I will continue on in life until I find the right person to love and be loved by. I will continue on in loneliness until I can love someone special! I will continue to postpone gratification until love comes into my life and makes my life full and happy again. I will find her I am sure. She is out there somewhere and I think she is looking for me too.

As Winston Churchill said, "We must never give up... we must endeavor to persevere."