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Why Is It So Hard to Find Someone Special? by Tom Chapman

I have often thought about this question! You would think an intelligent and educated man, a spiritual person, an entrepreneur and risk taker, who has been very athletic and is still single for many years and lives in a great place with 51% of adults single, that it would be easy right? No, it's not easy for any of us to find just the right person so that we can fall in love!

I don't know about you, but if I cannot see myself possibly falling in love with someone, then why invest my time, energy and money? Why go on dates with someone who you know is not what you are looking for in another person? Why act like you care if you don't?

Yes, I know, some people will say anything just to get laid, but that is not me. As a matter of fact, I consider good sex just the icing on the cake of a great relationship, but first I must fall in love with the cake! Because when the hot sex wears down, ok let's say the good sex, then that's when the rubber meets the road! That's when you need to be in love!

Why? Because once we get past that first stage of a relationship then the real question becomes "how compatible are you?". How much do you love that person? How unselfish, kind, caring, loving, warm and tender and responsible are you for maintaining a loving relationship for the long term?

For me, when and if I find her I need to feel like "I have been run over by a truck!" You know the feeling! You think about that person often, you want to be with them, you love being with them, you want truth and not deceit and you want to love and be loved by that person. I hope you will find that kind of love one day. I hope we all do!